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Alan Cahn's avatar

Love this post. We met through our mutual interest in both growth and helping others to grow. I like the notion of both accepting and loving myself as I am AND upgrading my brain patterns so that those behaviors that cause pain to myself and others diminish.

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Heidi Singfield's avatar

Thanks, Alan. Well said! Yes, growth seems to continue along with acceptance. I have always like the Nathaniel Brandon quote “The first step toward change is awareness. The second step is acceptance”. Appreciate your comments!

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ERIN REESE's avatar

Cheers to 100% powerlessness all the way!

If "trying to change the things we can" seems to help, or it is pleasurable, then I'm all in.

If it's just more misery, let go and let God deal with it.

I opt for the latter - offer this body-mind up and see what happens!

Meantime, put the ego in a hammock and give it a mojito, even while it's yelling, or trying to not yell. There is a deeper resting point in there...we can know this and be free, even if we're in pain.

There's my two rupees worth of input.

Thank you for writing this.

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Heidi Singfield's avatar

Thanks for adding more clarification, Erin. Yes, if you are pulled to change something, change away! The Forest Dweller years (or just plain aging) seem to have taken a lot of that away from me.

Ego in the hammock- love that image.

The resting point and freedom even in pain- so true.

I’ll take your two rupees worth any time!🙏

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ERIN REESE's avatar

🪷💕🪷

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Seth Bartlett's avatar

I need Alison to yell at me every time she does, which is more often than I enjoy. Since I know who you're married to, I'm surprised you're motivated to yell at him only sometimes. One of my favorite mantras is: "I am this way." We control exactly nothing.

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Heidi Singfield's avatar

Hahaha! Needing to be yelled at- I love it! Thanks, Seth!

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